For many working mothers, potty training is not just about teaching a new skill, it is about finding time, energy and consistency in an already busy schedule. Between office hours, household responsibilities and childcare, adding potty training to the routine can feel overwhelming.
Some parents believe it must be completed in a single weekend. Others delay it out of fear that they will not be able to manage accidents during workdays. But doctors say potty training does not have to be rushed or stressful.
According to Dr Poonam Sidana, Director of Neonatology and Paediatrics at CK Birla Hospital, Delhi, the most important step is to treat potty training as a gradual and structured process.
“It should not be forced or hurried. The focus should be on readiness, not just age,” she explains.
With the right approach, even busy working mothers can guide their children through this milestone with confidence.
STEP 1: LOOK FOR SIGNS OF READINESS, NOT AGE
Many parents ask, “What is the right age to start?” Experts say there is no fixed age. Some children are ready at 18 months, while others may take longer.
Instead of looking at the calendar, watch for signs of readiness. These include:
- Staying dry for two to three hours
- Showing discomfort in a wet or dirty diaper
- Expressing curiosity about the toilet
- Being able to follow simple instructions
If these signs are present, your child may be ready to begin.
STEP 2: INTRODUCE THE POTTY SLOWLY
Do not expect your child to start using the potty immediately.
Start by placing the potty chair in the bathroom and allowing your child to sit on it while fully clothed. This helps them become comfortable and familiar with it. There should be no pressure in the beginning.
After a few days, encourage them to sit on the potty without a diaper for short periods. Make it part of the daily routine rather than a forced activity.
STEP 3: CREATE A PREDICTABLE ROUTINE
Children respond well to routine. Set fixed potty times such as:
- After waking up
- After meals
- Before bedtime
For working mothers, coordination is very important. Dr Poonam Sidana advises that caregivers, grandparents or daycare staff should follow the same schedule.
Consistency across home and daycare prevents confusion and setbacks.
If the child receives mixed signals in different environments, progress may slow down.
STEP 4: USE ENCOURAGEMENT, NOT PRESSURE
Positive reinforcement works better than punishment. Praise your child when they try, even if they are not successful. Sticker charts or small rewards can help motivate them.
However, avoid creating pressure or fear. Accidents are normal. Scolding or comparing your child to others can create anxiety and delay progress.
“Every child learns at their own pace,” says Dr Sidana. “Parents should avoid comparisons and remain calm during setbacks.”
STEP 5: BE PATIENT. NIGHT TRAINING TAKES LONGER
Daytime control usually develops before nighttime dryness. It is common for children to need more time before they can stay dry overnight.
Focus on daytime success first. Dress your child in comfortable, easy-to-remove clothing to encourage independence. This small step can make a big difference.
Most importantly, be patient with yourself. Potty training can take weeks or even months. For working mothers, teamwork with family members and caregivers makes the journey smoother.
With consistency, encouragement and realistic expectations, potty training becomes a confidence milestone instead of a stressful challenge.
